I haven’t had one in a long time. A day for just me, that I can do whatever I want to just have a day to say that I can do whatever I want, but maybe not do anything at all. I didn’t know it was going to happen because my husband’s original plan was to bring just my eldest with him to his grandmother’s 90th. It was at least 4 hours drive away, which meant my 8 month pregnant ass wouldn’t be able to attend because I can’t sit for that long or my ankles turn into pillars. Then, he threw me a curveball. He was going to take BOTH kids with him. Seriously? I mean, I had said that if he only took my eldest the other one was going to be pissed, but I knew eventually they’d get over it. But to know that I would have the entire day kid-free blew my mind. I didn’t know what to do. I mean, I can’t do much because I’m pregnant, but just the thought of having a free day was awesome.
Isn’t it funny, though, that when we are faced with all of these options, we don’t know where to begin? I could get a pedicure, get a massage, go shopping. Then I realized that all I wanted to do was the stuff I did before I had kids. Sleep, be a blob until who knows what time, read, and wait until an obscene hour before getting out of my pj’s. That was going to make me feel like I accomplished a true mom day. I don’t need to spend money, go out anywhere, or do anything crazy. Sitting in front of bad tv with the fireplace on in my pj’s while sipping a cup of decaf coffee at a late morning hour was the best feeling in the world. I didn’t have anywhere to be, anything to do, no appts. It was amazing.
So if you are ever faced with a true mom day, don’t stress over what you SHOULD be doing because you are free from kids. You don’t have to wipe any asses, listen to any whining, make any meals. You don’t have to get up for anyone. You can nap, or just rest, or laze around in bed. You can wait until an extremely late hour to get out of your pj’s, take a shower (maybe), and eat what you want without hiding it from your kids. I have truly enjoyed my mom day. I didn’t do anything amazing, but it was awesome all the same. The only thing that will keep me going now that my husband has told me that they are on their way home (already!?!?!) is that I had a great day. Because we never know when these will come again.